May 19, 2012

Carnivals, Mentions, & Weekend Reading #8

Carnivals

Mentions

There is no doubt that the wedding ring post caused a bit of a stir last week. Sorry for getting everybody all riled up! :)

Weekend Reading

Highlight of the Week

There were some great posts this week, but I really want to highlight The Free Financial Advisor and his post: Allowances and Overprotective Parents.

I’m going to try to be short with this because parents these days REALLY GRIND MY GEARS. I could sit up on my soap box for hours but I’ll try not too…

The reality is that parents today are softer on their kids than EVER before. They shelter children and protect them from…ummm…LIFE..

Life isn’t all roses and crab legs (yeah, I like crab legs. What’s it to ya?). Life is tough.

We fail. We fall on our face and there isn’t always somebody there to pick you up. Nothing is handed to you despite what we show our children and despite what the government does to contradict that. You’re going to get fired from jobs and struggle making ends-meet. People will be mean and ruthless, and others will break your heart.

Is there a reason 85% of college graduates move back home with mommy
and daddy when they can’t find a job after school?

Sure, unemployment rates are high but last time I checked they weren’t 85%! Some may think ‘the kids are being wise’ but I promise most aren’t hoping to live at home so they can save up piles of cash and be financially responsible.

Are you preparing your children to be capable of picking themselves up? Are you preparing them for the reality of bills, responsibility, rules, and life without mommy and daddy?

Are you preparing them for LIFE or some fairy-tale land that doesn’t exist (at least on this planet)?

Other Great Weekend Reading

3 Words to Start the Week Off Right


ROCK CHALK JAYHAWK!

I couldn’t resist the opportunity to throw out some love to the 2012 KU Basketball team!

A season that started with minimal expectations has turned into something that ZERO Jayhawk fans could have fathomed.

A lineup that consists of ZERO McDonald’s All-Americans.

A team that, going into the season, had a power-packed roster of:

  • Travis Releford – who had to redshirt (which just doesn’t happen in basketball – well…if you’re GOOD anyway) as a sophomore because he had no chance of sniffing the roster when KU had some talent a few years ago.
  • Tyshawn Taylor – a turnover machine that had never averaged more than 10 ppg in any of his previous 3 seasons. He was best-known for being Sherron’s sidekick and always made me close my eyes whenever the ball was in his hands.
  • Connor Teahan – a walk-on that had to redshirt his SENIOR season because he also had no chance to see the court when KU was loaded with talent.
  • Jeff Withey – a rail-thin, 7-footer (yippee!) that averaged 6 minutes a game his sophomore season (most of which came in the non-conference season when Bill Self opens up his bench).
  • Kevin Young – a junior college transfer from Loyola Marymount who averaged all of 10 points per game for the powerhouse of JUCO basketball (sarcasm).
  • Thomas Robinson – an unproven man-child who served admirably when relieving Marcus and Markieff Morris his sophomore year.
  • Elijah Johnson – our “prized” recruit from 2009 that averaged 3 points and 13 minutes/game in his break-out sophomore season.

How in the world were we picked to tie for the Big 12 Championship?

Oh, right…because we’re Kansas and we have Bill Self (which the former is just a stupid reason).

5 Life Lessons I’ve Learned from the 2012 KU Basketball Team:

1. You can achieve anything you set your mind to – despite any naysayers.

2. Nobody can measure the size of your heart, toughness, and willingness to do what it takes.

3. There isn’t any deficit you can’t overcome. It’s only over when you decide to throw in the towel.

4. Tragedy and hardship can propel you to unreachable levels of success – if you allow it to.

5. You must always have great counsel and leaders in your life to help guide your path.

There’s a chance we lose by 20 tonight and there’s also a chance we’ll pull the upset.

With this team, anything is possible (fortunately and unfortunately).





Carnivals, Mentions, & Weekend Reading #5

Carnivals

This marks the 3rd week in a row that I made one of the “top 10″ lists! This week, Suba @ Wealth Informatics featured Athletes That Went Broke & Wondering Why We Enjoy Their Downfall which came in at #10 in the Best of Money Carnival!

Mentions

My post 6 Things You Must Discuss Before You Get Married was mentioned by:

GoodFinancialCents mentioned my post Everything You Need to Know About a Roth IRA.

Weekend Reading

I’m just going to be honest with this: it gets REALLY hard to choose one post as my “winner.” To all of my blogger buddies out there, I know there is a lot of pride involved with winning, but please don’t get your feelings hurt that I didn’t choose you.

So, I know there really isn’t any pride involved with being selected, but I like to imagine there is. It’s helps with that whole boosting of the ego thing.

Highlight of the Week

So, the best post this week wasn’t necessarily chosen for best content (although it’s pretty good), most inspiring story, or what “hit” me the hardest…

This week’s winner was chosen because he’s just so much more creative than I am. If I wanted to, I think I could come up with some creative stuff (at least that’s what I tell myself). In reality I know that I’m just too factual and realistic for my own good sometimes.

Well, the Highlight of the Week belongs to Steve @ Money Infant for his awesome post, 99 Problems but a Roth Ain’t One

The post was a part of the #RothIRAMovement and is a great song parody.

Other Top Posts:

6 Things You Must Discuss Before You Get Married

As a financial coach I’ve learned that my job involves much more than helping people with their finances. I’m often a marriage counselor, psychologist, and a motivator.
Before you need the whole marriage counseling aspect, let’s try to spearhead a few of the most issues couples face.

It surprises me how often people get married on a whim.

Rushing off to Vegas to get hitched by Elvis.

Running down to the courthouse after 4 months of dating because “you’re madly in love.”

Maybe it’s not even on a whim…maybe you’ve known the person for years. However, have you considered that you’re just good buddies and have failed to really dig into the deeper issues of life?

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In reality then, you’ve failed to get to know the person that you plan to spend the rest of your life with and you’re setting up your marriage for failure.

It’s no wonder why the majority of marriages in the United States end up in divorce.

Isn’t it sad that I get surprised to hear of a couple that has been married for 50 years? Or when I get surprised to meet a person my age (27) that has parents that are still married?

If you’re interested in having a marriage that beats the odds and lasts for decades, then here are 6 things I think you should delve into before popping the question.

6 Issues That Will Stop a Marriage Before It Starts

1. Children

Do you both want to have children?

If so, how many?

How long will you wait after you get married?

The key to these conversations is to go deeper than simply the questions allow: are you ready to handle the sacrifices that being a parent entails? Are you both grown up enough to be responsible for another person’s life? Are you willing to be the parents that the child needs you to be?

When Holly and I first started dating we were both against having children. I’m not exactly sure why, but it just wasn’t something we were both interested in.

I’ve talked to dozens of people on this topic and I the responses always confuse me. You hear that children are the greatest blessing on earth and they’re the best thing that will ever happen to you!


But from the other side of the mouth you hear the same person say how difficult they are and how much they’ve had to give up for them.

I’m not trying to create an argument here; my point is only that there is no “correct” answer. The answer is dependent upon you and your future spouse.

The key is that both of you should be on the same page and have a great understanding of what you each expect as far as having children is concerned.

To be fair, Holly and I have both eased on our stances of having kids. We’re certainly not ready as of this time, but I could see a day 3-4 years from now when it’s a possibility.

2. Religion

Another topic that causes great marital distress is religion.

Regardless of your beliefs it’s important to know what your future spouse believes. I’ll go out on a limb and say that an atheist and a devout Christian aren’t going to live happily ever after.

Personally speaking, I wasn’t really raised in a church and believing in God didn’t really matter all that much. On the other hand my wife was raised Christian and her family regularly attended church and bible studies.

While we failed to discuss religion early in our relationship, the longer we were together the more my spiritual beliefs were influenced by her.

Over the course of time we saw religion through the same lens. It’s been one the greatest blessings in our marriage, but I can only wonder what it would be like if we weren’t on the same page.

3. Finances

As a financial coach I’m consistently surprised as to how ignorant each spouse is of their husband/wife’s spending habits.

Not only that, but many people don’t know their spouses financial past before getting married!

While you shouldn’t make your marital decision based on their financial failure/success, you should know how they handle money and you should know how much debt they have before you get hitched!

Finances are the #1 cause of divorce in this country for the mere fact that so many of us are different: we come from different backgrounds, we each have different values and goals, and we each have a different understanding of how to properly manage money (or no understanding at all).

To make matters worse, I’ve found that it’s very common for one spouse to be a SPENDER and the other to be a SAVER.

Opposites do attract and that’s why it’s so important that you talk about money before you get married. I don’t recommend that you combine your finances prior to getting married, but you should have a firm grasp on each others financial views and situation.

4. Family

It’s SOOOO important to have family boundaries before getting married.

Does your husband like to visit his parents every weekend? Is he a momma’s boy?

While there isn’t anything wrong with that – heck, I think it’s good to spend time with your family! – it could cause problems and be a serious area of conflict.

As husband and wife you’ll have to start making decisions and resolve conflicts on your own. It only creates issues when one spouse runs to their family for help and alienates the other spouse.

It’s also a recipe for disaster if you’re so tied to your family/parents that your spouse always questions himself/herself and constantly looks over their back.

Relying on your parents and going to them for advice prior to consulting your spouse is a BAD IDEA.

It’s also not a good thing to compare your spouse to your parents: ‘well, hun, you’re a good cook and all but it doesn’t compare to my mom’s.’

Or, ‘my dad was sure handy with cars, why can’t you ever fix anything?’

I’m not saying you can’t think those things, you just can’t say them! Good grief! We undermine our spouses a lot without even realizing it. Hopefully, for your sake, they’re able to let it roll off their back.

5. Politics

For a majority of people this won’t be a big deal, but I’ve met quite a few people that are VERY opinionated.

The reality is that strongly opinionated political minds are just that: they’re not really willing to accept somebody else’s ideas or arguments.

It is possible that you can exist together for the majority of your marriage, you might just want a large enough house to separate once every 4 years.

6. Career Aspirations

Take some time to discuss what your goals are in life and in your careers.

Do you want to own your own business and be an entrepreneur? If so, there are sacrifices and risks that come along with those things and you need a spouse that will stand by your side through the thick and the thin.

Will one of the spouses want to be a stay-at-home mom (or dad) if you have children? What would that look like financially? How can you start planning for that as soon as you get married and set things up so that dream can become a reality?

Do you both have similar work ethics and motivations? A major problem I’ve seen with spouses is that one will work like a crazy person and the other is relatively unmotivated and isn’t driven to do much.

While it’s fine for you to get married if you find yourself in this situation, don’t get upset or frustrated years down the road if your spouse isn’t bringing in much bacon. Furthermore, don’t expect the person to change just because you’re marrying them – what you see is what you get.

It’s not uncommon for people to completely ignore a majority of these discussions. The fact is that you might love the person you’re with and simply enjoy spending time with them. However, if you want to set your marriage up for the long-haul then I’d strongly encourage that you take some time and have a few serious heart-to-hearts.

What have been some of your biggest marital hurdles? Were there things you wished you would have discussed prior to tying the knot?

Athletes That Went Broke & Wondering Why We Enjoy Their Downfall

The idea for this post came from an article I read online about Allen Iverson being the next big name athlete to go broke.

Because of the company I work for, I’ve read similar stories about Michael Vick, Latrell Sprewell, Jack Clark, Mike Tyson, Lawrence Taylor, Scottie Pippen, Lenny Dykstra, and “Rocket” Ismail, and I finally thought this would be a good time to write something on this topic.

I Have a Soft Spot for Athletes

I’m not sure what it is but I have a soft spot for Professional Athletes and their inability to manage money.

Maybe it’s because I was surrounded by athletes in college and I understand them differently than others (i.e. how they grew up and what they came from).

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Maybe it’s because the firm I work for has had the privilege to speak to sports teams throughout the country.

Maybe it’s because it pains me to see people mismanage money, and it hurts even more when the media makes a spectacle out of high-profile cases like athletes and movie stars.

Or, on another hand, maybe it’s because I just don’t want to see those people get ridiculed in the public spotlight. Let’s face it, most Americans aren’t cheering for movie stars or athletes to succeed (financially).

We’d rather see them fall flat on their face.

There is a reason people like Brittany Spears, Lindsay Lohan, Paris Hilton, and Mel Gibson garner headline news and major attention when they struggle with money and life.

Why?

Because the “news”/media publishes and talks about what sells. And what sells is the public humiliation and the failure of those high-profile celebrities.

So Why Do We Enjoy the Debacle?

I can’t answer this for everyone, but my inclination is because the majority of us are jealous.

We believe that these people are worshiped (which they are), we believe they live “beautiful”, stress-free lives, and we think they’re so rich that they don’t have any worries in the world.

My first response is that this thought is extremely ignorant. Most studies show that money and material possessions don’t make you a happier person.

We spend our time consumed with dreaming of their lives: ‘what if we had that kind of money?’

We personally can’t fathom making the salaries and bonuses that athletes are privileged to, so we judge and compare our lives to theirs. ‘If I made that kind of money I’d never go broke! What a fool!’

While I’m not perfect and I certainly catch myself judging and comparing
my life to others, I’ve found that this doesn’t do anybody any good.

To bring this down to a less drastic level, I recently gained a rather substantial amount of attention for my How We Survived a $70,000 Pay Cut post. While I’ve never considered us “rich” or well-off, I received an enormous amount of judgmental comments and emails. People couldn’t help but assume things about me and compare my life to theirs.

I even read a great post by Amy at The Finer Things in Life about her initial reaction to my post and how it’s useless to judge your life to anybody else’s. (Take a minute and go read her post).

The Reality of People Who Receive Large Sums of Money

While we judge and compare our lives to those that are financially blessed, we never really take time to look deeper than the surface-level glitz and glamor.

Quick Facts:

  • 50% of lottery winners declare bankruptcy 10 years after winning
  • 78% of NFL players are bankrupt or “severally financially distressed” 2 years after retiring
  • 60% of NBA players are bankrupt within 5 years of retirement

These numbers may shock you, but before you become that person that rushes to call them a “fool,” I’d encourage you to take a step back and think beyond your initial reaction.

7 Reasons Why Athletes Go Broke

1. They were never taught how to manage money.

Much like you and I, celebrities and athletes were never taught how to manage money growing up.

They were never taught basic financial principles of budgeting, living on less than they make, saving for their future, or investing properly.

There is a definitive correlation between financial knowledge and financial behavior. If you’ve never been taught how to properly manage money, then the odds are you’re going to end up broke – regardless of who you are or how much you make.

2. They grew up in poverty and had nothing to speak of in regards to material possessions.

This isn’t true for some athletes, but the reality is that many of them grew up dirt poor. A lot of them come from broken homes and inner cities – places where the only way to “get out” is to make it to the big leagues or to study really, really hard and overcome all of the hurdles involved with growing up like that.

I would venture to say that if you were given large sums of money and grew up with nothing, then you’d be inclined to do exactly what they do when they “make it big:” spend everything and buy a bunch of nice stuff! Why shouldn’t they? They worked their whole lives to get to that point and they earned it.

3. They have family they want to help.

If you talk to a professional athlete, their first desire is to help take care of their family and their close friends.

Many of these peoples’ families made extreme sacrifices for their children to get to this point in their lives, so of course they want to repay them for all of their struggle.

Also, as I mentioned a second ago, a lot of them came from nothing so they desire to get their family a better place to live and shower them with the luxuries that any parent deserves.

Is that so different than you and I?

4. They keep friends old friends around and travel in entourages.

The saying goes something like ‘your salary with be the average of your 10 closest friends.’

The reality is that you’re going to be like the people you associate yourself with. Dave Ramsey likes to say that “Rich people do rich people stuff, and poor people do poor people stuff.”

The same is true if you look at it a different way: if you’re surrounded by people that hate life and think negatively then you’re going to end up the same way!

The problem with many of these athletes is that they have life-long friends that they never stop associating with. When those friends don’t “make it,” they hop on the back of the “bread-winner” and enjoy the “high life” right alongside them.

These are generally the same friends that grew up in poverty and lived a life that the majority of us are sheltered from – ways of life that I could never comprehend. More often then not this means that these friends eventually lead the person back into trouble – financially and legally.

Have you ever seen the show, Entourage? Exactly…

5. They have to rely on others for financial advice.

The reality of the professional athlete is that their life is CONSUMED with their job. They don’t just play the games we see on TV (or in person), they practice, they work out, they have meetings, and they study film on top of that.

Even when I was a red-shirt at KU (meaning I sat out for a whole year), my life was still consumed by football – there was NO time for anything else (unless it was from 10 PM to 5 AM). I eventually made the realization that school just didn’t matter (they said it did…but it didn’t).

This reality, along with the fact that most athletes aren’t financially savvy (see point #1), means that they’re forced to rely on others to provide their financial guidance.

An athlete’s agent may recommend an accountant or advisor. Sometimes there is a family member that “helps” them, and others rely on recommendations from teammates. Who better to trust than the person you’re with every day?

Considering athletes are high-profiled (and earn a lot of money), they’re targets of sophisticated scams every single day. Many of the public debacles we see is because a group of players use the same investment manager (one refers another, who refers another) and it turns out to be a fraud.

6. They never reduce their lifestyle.

Even after their playing days and high-earning years are behind them, many athletes continue to live the glitz and glamor lifestyle they had been accustomed to.

The reality for most Americans is that we’ve yet to reach retirement, so many of us don’t know what these feels like. However, I can promise you that you’re going to run into this issue as well.

Most of us don’t save enough money each month to ensure us of a similar lifestyle once we reach our twilight years. The old-school American Dream was that we’d reach retirement and ENJOY the finer things in life: traveling, not working, spending unlimited time with friends and family, etc.

However, that lifestyle comes with a cost. When you’re faced with reality and have to cut back, it’s going to be difficult and you will find yourself running out of money too quickly in retirement.

In fact, 67% of people over age 44 fear outliving
their assets more than they fear dying.

Just like the majority of these points, athletes are no different than us in this regard. They simply “retire” earlier and have longer to live on the nest egg they’ve built up.

Adjusting lifestyle is far-and-away the hardest thing to do. If you’ve been accustomed to living on $500,000/year then that means you need a nest egg of $12,500,000 earning 4% to ensure you live off of the interest and not dip into the principle (meaning that you probably wouldn’t outlive your money).

7. They get married…and then divorced.

My guess is that many of these guys/girls don’t marry for true love; of course they think they’re getting married for the right reasons but how can you really know when everybody is constantly trying to impress you?

With all of the groupies and people that throw themselves at athletes and movie stars, it would be extremely difficult to really know if somebody loved you or if they were putting on a show so they could get to your money.

Even if an athlete has the future spouse sign a prenuptial agreement, they are typically still on the hook for alimony and child support. These payments can be tens of thousands of dollars a month and is something that’s EXTREMELY difficult to maintain once the player retires.

If there isn’t a prenup, then half of the professional athlete’s wealth gets shipped over to the “better half” along with the ridiculous alimony and child support payments.

Don’t Be Too Quick To Judge

I’m not saying that athletes shouldn’t manage their money better; all I’m saying is that YOU shouldn’t be shocked when they go broke.

You shouldn’t be judgmental and compare your life to theirs. What’s the point? What good does it do when you bask in their failure?

How are they any different from you and me? We all struggle with money. Just because a person has a high income doesn’t lessen this reality…it just makes it BIGGER.

Carnivals, Mentions, and Weekend Reading #3

Carnivals

I will mention that I’m very honored to be included in the Best of Money Carnival! There were over 500 submissions and mine was chosen as one of the top 10! Wooooohoooo!!

Mentions

Feeling the LOVIN!

My post ‘Does Fear Control Your Life?’ was also mentioned by:

Street $mart Finance also mentioned my post about How We Survived a $70,000 Pay Cut.

Weekend Reading

I didn’t have any guest posts this past week, but I do want to highlight some of the best articles that I read around the web.

Take some time this weekend and check these out!

Highlight of the Week

Personally, I think there is little arguing that the younger generation (anybody under 30) is now softer and weaker than any generation in the history of our country. I understand that’s a blanket statement and it DOES NOT apply to all of us, but I’m AMAZED how fragile some of the “kids” are these days.

We get discouraged and break easily. We quit. We think things should be handed to us; we see what our parents have and we expect to have the same overnight. We’ve lived a sheltered, cushy life with no serious manual labor and no wars fought on American soil that can scare us straight…the list can go on, and on, and on.

With that said, I LOVED this post from Shilpan @ Street $mart Finances: 10 Life Lessons for My College-Aged Daughters.

If I have kids one day, my prayer is that I can raise them with those principles.

Runner-Up

Money Infant via guest post on Financial Samurai wrote What Is The Real Meaning Of Wealth?

Honorable Mentions

Money Won’t Make You Happy…But It Will Buy You Stuff!

“Money won’t make you happy

…but everybody wants to find out

for themselves.” – Zig Ziglar

Some people say that ‘MONEY is the root of all evil.’

The problem is that we all need money to live.

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There are bills to pay and food to put on the table.

A roof to put over your family’s head and some means of transportation that has to be paid for.

It’s even said that we’re supposed to put clothes on our back…I’m not sure about you but I’m pretty positive it’s nice not to have everybody walking around naked. Maybe that’s just me though.

But Beyond the Basics…When Is Enough, Enough?

Where do you draw the line?

Personally, I’ve struggled with this question. There is no denying that I love STUFF and comfort.

I have goals, dreams, and desires.

My wife and I constantly dream of going to Switzerland, a cruise to Alaska, having a 65″ LED TV, a new camera, and a new car.

I even have a CRAZY goal for future charitable contributions.

My desires and goals lead to constant effort and work…the effort and work that it takes to “succeed.”

It leads to a mind that constantly thinks and a tired person that executes a schedule designed for maximum productivity.

Having Priorities

While each person is different, I’ve found it helpful to have priorities.

I realize that some of the things I want to accomplish in my life may not come to fruition…and that’s fine by me.

I realize that some of the material possessions I want may not fit in my budget (ever)…and I’m good with that.

I know that there are places in this world that I may never be able to see…and I can live with that.

WHY?

Because I’ve learned to redefine what happiness looks like.

I realize that money and things aren’t what really make you happy (because I’ve been there and I was miserable).

I’ve learned that it’s more important to have the moments with my friends, family, and my wonderful wife.

It’s more important to enjoy the time sitting on my couch reading a book, reflecting on life, and enjoying the day.

Life is too short to work it all away…only for the sake of money and material things.

There will always be another business opportunity and another avenue to make money. There will always be another client to get or another sale to close.

There will be a nicer car than the one you have or a bigger/better house to live in.

There will always be something…but when is enough, enough?

A quote that has really helped me was from Jon Acuff’s book, Quitter:

“Success will tell you that your enough is not enough,
and it will keep you on a treadmill of your own design,
but a treadmill nonetheless…
Instead of chasing “enough,” you have to define it.
If you chase it, you’ll never catch it.
Enough is incredibly quick. Much like perfection,
it seems to remain out of reach.”

I won’t argue that money can afford you the luxury to take vacations and do things that create memories (and therefore brings about some happiness). However, I do think there is a fine line. Have you ever taken the time to define “ENOUGH?” What does that look like to you? Do you sometimes find yourself sacrificing true happiness for the pursuit of the always-moving “perfect life?”

Blog Income and Statistics February 2012

I’m Competitive

I’m naturally a competitive person.

Now, I will say that I’ve gotten MUCH better with this problem over the years, but I’d be lying if I said that I don’t try my best at everything I do.

Not only do I like competition, I love to build things from the ground up – I don’t know what it is, but something about being the underdog that knocks out the “super-giant” gets me pumped.

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I also like a challenge…not a challenge that I fail at. It’s only fun if you succeed. Probably something that I need to work on.

Even though it’s something I need to work on, I also know that’s what makes me, ME! It’s what helps me be successful and it gives me the drive to continue to push forward when times are tough.

Starting things from the ground up, competition, and a challenge are the 3 reasons why it’s really exciting for me to watch this blog continue to GROW!

Of course I’d like to see greater success – that’s that whole stupid competitive thing – but I’m content with where things are headed (I always have to remind myself why I started this site).

Before I get into the updates for this month, I just want to THANK (again) all of my readers and followers. Without your consistent comments and visits, my motivation to continue this would certainly be dampened.

Site Traffic

Understanding that January was an exceptional month due to MoneySavingMom, my goal for February was to have at least 1,000 unique visitors for the month.

Now, I’m still really new to this whole blogging thing, so I don’t know how to set accurate goals yet.

Thanks to the Yakezie Network and all of my great followers, we were able to blow that goal out of the water!

WOOHOO!

Total Visits for February – 3,236

  • Organic Search: 696
  • Direct Traffic: 750
  • Referral Traffic: 1707

Unique Visitors – 1,925

Pageviews – 5,972
most popular pages:

Average Time on Site – 2 minutes 38 seconds

I can’t take any of the credit for February being better than I expected. A big part of the traffic was due to my $70,000 pay cut post being linked by Amy at the Finer Things in life. Much thanks to her!

The other main reason for increased traffic was the wonderful Yakezie network and the support shown by the best financial bloggers in the world.

If you’re not sure what Yakezie is, check out my announcement about entering the challenge and attemping to become a part of that group.

Top Referring Sites

RSS & Newsletter

RSS Subscribers – 156 (138 in January)

Newsletter Subscribers – 359 (354 in January)

Site Rankings

Technorati Ranking – 2,345 (29,905)

  • Finance Ranking – 48 (406)
  • Food Ranking – 1,174 (2187)
  • Business Ranking – 132 (Didn’t list this last month)

Needless to say, but I’m VERY pleased with the results from Technorati! It’s pretty awesome to be in their top 100 for Finance Sites!! We’ll just see if I can hold onto that.

Alexa Ranking – 450,355 (1,128,080)

  • Inbound Links – 32 (18)

BOOM!

I am stoked to see the amazing progress in my Alexa rankings! If you haven’t been following, part of the Yakezie challenge is to get under 200,000 in the world rankings.

While I still have a LONG way to go to reach the finish line, it’s very exciting to see that number keep dropping – quickly at that!

Google Page Rank – 0 (0)

I’m still impatiently waiting for this thing to go up. I’ve done a little more digging about the Google PR and I now understand they only update it a couple of times each year.

Furthermore, Google makes you “prove” that you’re not a one-night wonder and doesn’t start really recognizing your site until 3-9 months after you launched. The end of February marks my 3rd full month of blogging, so I still may have awhile to go before I see progress here.

Blogging Income

It’s exciting to see Google Adsense starting to pick up a little, and the My Setup page continues to get traffic and appears to be helping a few new bloggers out there.

Google Adsense – $22.06 ($11.91)

Affiliate Income – $43.98 ($15.80)

So, that’s the blog income and statistics for February!

Thanks to all of my followers! I pray that you continue to come back!

Sidenote: starting next month I plan to make this post a little more condensed as I want to start adding a tip each month for new bloggers. The tip/advice will simply be geared towards something I’ve learned, an affiliate channel that is doing well, an idea that may help your blog, and/or some info on a useful plugin or widget.

…until then…

Does Fear Control Your Life?

What’s Holding You Back?

Why are you scared to take risk – the risk of following a new career path, pursuing a dream job, starting a website or blog and sharing your story?

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Why are you scared to test your limits and challenge the things that you think you’re capable of?

My guess is that is has a lot to do with fear…

Fear of rejection.

Fear of humiliation and judgment.

Maybe it’s the fear of failure or simply fearing the unknown.

If you never try to pursue something you’re passionate about, or if you never attempt to share your story or opinions, then you never have to worry about facing these fears.

You don’t have to worry about being told that you’re not good enough or being disappointed that you failed.

So we settle; we settle for comfort. We settle for the known and less risky paths.

You settle but in doing so you deprive the world of your story, your strengths, and your ability to make a difference.

My Fear

When I decided to start this blog there was nothing but fear. Sure, there was the hope and thought that this could turn into something that helped people change their lives.

However, the constant thought of judgment, failure, and rejection never escaped my mind.

Do I really have to share my financial information and our personal struggles? Do I really have to talk about how much money I gave up to pursue a job that I was passionate about?

Maybe…maybe not. But I believe that peoples’ stories and shared experiences motivate and provide proven methods to change our lives and mold us into better people.

These stories give us the opportunity to learn, expand, and develop into something better than we are today.

We all have a story to tell. We all have struggles, strengths, and passions that could be used to help others throughout this world.

So what’s holding you back?

Stepping Out & Taking a Risk

A few weeks ago I ran across a blog that was started by a friend of mine from high school.

I’ll admit that I’ve lost contact with most of my old friends for various reasons, so I really didn’t know anything that had been going on in the life of this individual.

Well, by taking some time to read through her blog, I discovered that Alex lost her hearing sometime after high school and she has been blogging about her journey to learn to hear again.

When I read through some of her posts, and felt the honesty with which she writes, I couldn’t help but to be inspired.

How much fear did she have to overcome to share her story? Maybe it’s nothing compared to what she’s faced throughout this period in her life…but still…there was certainly some fear and risk.

However, I was more inspired by the fact that she was doing something! She is sharing a part of her personal life to help motivate and educate others that are facing similar battles and similar struggles.

Maybe you don’t have as great of a struggle to share, but my bet is you have something to say.

Every day I read blog comments (on other blogs) about readers seeking bloggers that struggle with money – people that are barely making ends-meet. People that have 3 kids and live near the poverty level.

Why?

Because there are others out there like you and people want to hear your story.

Hearing about somebody that overcomes struggle motivates us – Americans love to root for the underdog! It shows me that if you can do it, then I can do it too!

So, what’s holding you back?

Touching Lives & Being Real

This blog is popular, so there is a chance you’ve heard of it: Enjoying the Small Things.

First, I’ve never read a more well-written blog (I’m envious of her ability to write). More importantly I’ve never read through something that was so REAL and filled with raw emotion.

Something so honest and sad, yet so inspiring and encouraging.

In her blog, Enjoying the Small Things, Kelle Hampton shares her personal story of what it was like to have a baby with Down Syndrome.

I’ve read some other blogs with similar situations and they’re encouraging as well…Kelle’s writing and emotions just hit me the most.

There were numerous thoughts racing through my mind as I read Nella’s story (Kelle’s child). However, as I reflect back on it, I wonder how much fear she had to overcome to share that?

But the better question is: how many lives has she touched and changed because she decided to?

You have something to share. A desire or passion to pursue, or a God-given strength to take advantage of.

What’s holding you back?

If your excuse/reason is because you don’t know how to create a blog then I’d encourage you to check out the My Setup page. That’s where I detailed everything I used to create this site.

Provide Hope. Conquer Fear. Inspire Change.

If you have a story you’d like to share (career, financial, life, etc), then I’d love to hear it. I might even be interested in sharing it as a post on this blog! You can send me an email by clicking here!

Posts You Should Read From Around the Web #1

I firmly believe that if you want to learn and grow then you must be reading.

I read books, magazines, and lately I’ve been reading more blogs than most people could fathom.

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Something that I want to integrate into my normal posting schedule is a specific post that highlights some of the better things that I’ve read throughout the week or month.

Now I’m not quite sure how often I’ll post this, but it will be at least once a month and possibly every other week.

These are posts from other bloggers that I think you’ll find helpful, encouraging, and motivating. So, I’d encourage you to take a few minutes and read through each of them if the topic interests you!

A Simple Budget (by Beating Broke)

Creating a Simple Budget the Beating Broke Way

Considering we’ve recently come out of the 6-week budget series, I thought it would be good to provide another great perspective on budgeting.

While the budget discussed in the post is very similar to the way I do my personal budget, it is a little different from the way I described throughout my series.

Earning Extra Income on Valentine’s Day (by See Debt Run)

Valentine’s Day; Delivering Myself From Debt

I’m a HUGE fan of getting out of debt and thinking of creative ways to do so.

Not only is this something that most people can do themselves, it may be something I personally look into next year if we’re still in debt by then.

Quitting Your Day Job (by Invest It Wisely)

How I Quit My Job, and What I Plan to Do Next

I believe that everybody should work a job they love, pursue their passions, and do so in a way that doesn’t jeopardize their family.

I loved this post by Kevin and I’d encourage you to check it out. It is a little long but you’re used to some of my ridiculously long posts, so this shouldn’t be anything you can’t handle.

Great Credit Score Information (by Bible Money Matters)

What Is A Good Credit Score?

Credit scores are important and many people are confused about the various aspects of it.

In this post Peter discussed what a good credit score is, what determines your credit rating, and some places to find FREE credit reports and scores.

Can’t Buy Love (by Krantcents)

Can’t Buy Me Love

A major part of succeeding financially involves learning to be content with what you have.

It’s hard to be financially responsible in America, and it’s hard to consistently say no and avoid the lure of material possessions. I love the “3 C’s of Financial Contentment” mentioned in the post!

RIDICULOUS FREE Giveaway (by The Extra Money Blog)

I am Giving Away $1,500, an Apple Ipad 2, a FREE VACATION and a $25 Amazon Gift Card in Celebration of my 6,000+ Subscribership Mark

I registered for the giveaway and you should too! I personally want to win the Ipad 2…okay…so I really will take the $1,500, buy my own Ipad 2 and keep the rest of the cash. :)

It’s really easy to enter, so head on over there and get registered! Registration closes on 3/15/12.